Friday, June 29, 2012
Well wouldn't you know it.. I checked the CSE website today and they actually sent Jack a letter. It was a reminder that he hadn't paid his child support in 45 days and that he had 14 days to pay it .. it's been much longer.. and this was only the first of three reminders .. but hey, it;s more than what's been done so far. I could really use the money right now.. I doubt he will pay any of it.. but we will see.
Thursday, June 28, 2012
It's been 4 days of extra B12 a multivitamin and my regular dose of CLA ..which is typically for weight loss but helps my joint pain immensely. Not quite sure if it is pure will power or if the supplements are actually helping but I do feel a bit better than I have the past two weeks.
On another note.. it's been 4 months since Jack has paid child support. The Florida Child Support Enforcement Agency (CSE) is living up to it's horrible reputation. A judge denied Jacks petition for a paternity test back in December; in March I received an appointment notice for genetic testing. Confused, I called child support and they told me to call the Clerk of Court, which I did, only to be told to go to my local CSE office with the letter to work it out. I did.. and no one could tell me why I received this letter because they had no record of it. Must have been a mistake...They made a note in my file and told me not to worry about the appointment.. In May I received yet another appointment letter saying that they had rescheduled my appointment. Again I called CSE and the Clerk of Court.. both saying it was the other agencies responsibility to fix it... but that this time, even though te Clerk of Court had no record of a judges order for testing, there was indeed an appointment in the CSE database and I had neglected to make the first one... Also letting me know that they would not begin enforcement actions until the results came back. Needless to say, I was more than a little frustrated. But a prepared myself to miss yet another day of work just to get it over with. Two days before the appointment I faxed the local CSE office administrator and explained both the situation and my frustration (there is no local phone number available).. She called me the next morning apologizing and assuring me that I did not have to go to the appointment.. also assuring me that she had made 2 notes and called the testing facility to cancel, and that she had no idea why someone told me they would not pursue the child support until the testing was completed because it simply wasn't true .. Well I wish I could say that they at least sent im a letter that day.. but they haven't.. I called yesterday and the worker seemed baffled at the fact that there had been no action taken since April .. but assured me .. YET AGAIN.. that she would put a note in my file for the local office to pursue... Something tells me that before my munchkin is 10 they will run out of room to post notes... Maybe then they will actually look at my file.. if for nothing else but to purge it and begin again.....We shall see..
On another note.. it's been 4 months since Jack has paid child support. The Florida Child Support Enforcement Agency (CSE) is living up to it's horrible reputation. A judge denied Jacks petition for a paternity test back in December; in March I received an appointment notice for genetic testing. Confused, I called child support and they told me to call the Clerk of Court, which I did, only to be told to go to my local CSE office with the letter to work it out. I did.. and no one could tell me why I received this letter because they had no record of it. Must have been a mistake...They made a note in my file and told me not to worry about the appointment.. In May I received yet another appointment letter saying that they had rescheduled my appointment. Again I called CSE and the Clerk of Court.. both saying it was the other agencies responsibility to fix it... but that this time, even though te Clerk of Court had no record of a judges order for testing, there was indeed an appointment in the CSE database and I had neglected to make the first one... Also letting me know that they would not begin enforcement actions until the results came back. Needless to say, I was more than a little frustrated. But a prepared myself to miss yet another day of work just to get it over with. Two days before the appointment I faxed the local CSE office administrator and explained both the situation and my frustration (there is no local phone number available).. She called me the next morning apologizing and assuring me that I did not have to go to the appointment.. also assuring me that she had made 2 notes and called the testing facility to cancel, and that she had no idea why someone told me they would not pursue the child support until the testing was completed because it simply wasn't true .. Well I wish I could say that they at least sent im a letter that day.. but they haven't.. I called yesterday and the worker seemed baffled at the fact that there had been no action taken since April .. but assured me .. YET AGAIN.. that she would put a note in my file for the local office to pursue... Something tells me that before my munchkin is 10 they will run out of room to post notes... Maybe then they will actually look at my file.. if for nothing else but to purge it and begin again.....We shall see..
Sunday, June 24, 2012
So.. it's Sunday morning and the house is quiet (for now).. The kids are still asleep and I am enjoying a cup of coffee and a few minutes of solitude... I keep thinking back to yesterdays post.. then further back to the past couple of weeks. I have been feeling especially moody for at least that long. I find myself wanting to be alone most of the time. The thought of being around anyone but my children makes me anxious.
I have a good life... beautiful children who love me.. a decent job..good friends; so I can't quite understand why I am feeling this way. Whatever it is.. I hate it and I am determined to shake it! But how do you fight something you can't see... something you don't know the origin of? Vitamins.. herbs.. determination.. or do I give in and opt for technology and man made drugs? I do not like prescription drugs.. never have. They tend to mask real issues and more often than not, the side effects are worse than the condition they are prescribed for.... so I will try determination and some supplements for now. I should be happily enjoying all of the amazing things that life has provided me... not wanting to hide away from them. Let's see where this takes me..
I have a good life... beautiful children who love me.. a decent job..good friends; so I can't quite understand why I am feeling this way. Whatever it is.. I hate it and I am determined to shake it! But how do you fight something you can't see... something you don't know the origin of? Vitamins.. herbs.. determination.. or do I give in and opt for technology and man made drugs? I do not like prescription drugs.. never have. They tend to mask real issues and more often than not, the side effects are worse than the condition they are prescribed for.... so I will try determination and some supplements for now. I should be happily enjoying all of the amazing things that life has provided me... not wanting to hide away from them. Let's see where this takes me..
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Moody today
Enjoying a quiet Saturday after a stressful week.. I have been a bit moody lately; hopefully some quiet time will help.. Clay may stop by for a bit, and Alli's little sister and her friend will be visiting as well.. I am really not in te mood to socialize but I suppose I can manage for a few hours.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Friday, June 15, 2012
Sunday, June 10, 2012
Long overdue
So, I have moved to the next phase of my life.. both figuratively and physically! It feels good.. I moved to a small town just one county away from where I was, and couldn't be happier. The schools are great... neighbors are friendly.. and I am 5 minutes from work. I am slowly and cautiously meeting new people.. Marissa is flourishing.. she met a new friend and they get along wonderfully.
I have also filed for child support for my littlest angel, Joaquin. It isn't being paid.. but I knew that it wouldn't be. Within hours of the judges decision, Jack called me to ask about relinquishing his parental rights. It was the very thing that kept me from asking for support for so many years... now.. well it is what is.. at least until Joaquin is older and begins to ask questions. Sigh.. I am not looking forward to that.. but I will handle it as gently as possible... For now.. he is a happy, loved, and well adjusted 4 year old. He asks for his daddy but is content with knowing that daddy is very busy but loves him with all his heart.
I have also filed for child support for my littlest angel, Joaquin. It isn't being paid.. but I knew that it wouldn't be. Within hours of the judges decision, Jack called me to ask about relinquishing his parental rights. It was the very thing that kept me from asking for support for so many years... now.. well it is what is.. at least until Joaquin is older and begins to ask questions. Sigh.. I am not looking forward to that.. but I will handle it as gently as possible... For now.. he is a happy, loved, and well adjusted 4 year old. He asks for his daddy but is content with knowing that daddy is very busy but loves him with all his heart.
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